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Open Letter to Emma Watson.

Screen Shot 2015-06-11 at 2.30.34 PMNote: Dear Sir or Madam, The following is a note for Emma Watson.

Please please please, pass it along to her if you see her.


I am releasing this letter into the ether in the hopes that it somehow finds its way to you!

My name is Amy Van Doran, and I am a professional matchmaker in New York City, I am the premier feminist matchmaker, I specialize in curating the love lives of brilliant, cool, inspired, and liberated single women and the men that love them.

Like you, I identify as a feminist, and find myself in a constant, uphill battle to bridge the gender inequality gaps that remain so pervasive in the contemporary dating landscape. I found that my gift in life was that I have exquisite taste in people and have a penchant for introducing people their awe inspired equal. It is my life’s quest to educate men on the joys of falling in love with intelligent, powerful, successful women, and helping these women (because, we know it is hard, and settling is not an option!) find their equally as spiritually evolved partner.

Emma, I am writing to you, in the unlikely event that you are single, because I want to offer you my services. Completely pro bono!

Why you? Well, because I have a feeling you might be extraordinary. And, I think you might be the perfect match for a gentleman, whom I believe is the best man I know (and trust me, I have interviewed thousands). He is intellectually expansive, handsome, brilliant, wildly successful, emotionally intelligent, and socially responsible. If this all sounds good feel free to reach out, and perhaps I can have you by the office for a nice tea or lady kiki.

Yours in Romance,
Amy Van Doran
The Matchmaker for Extraordinary People

The Case for Radical Authenticity

by Whitney Noelle

Throughout life we’ve continuously been told to put our best foot forward. While there’s wisdom in this mantra, I believe putting our most authentic foot forward is the real game changer, especially when it comes to the world of dating.

Wanting to be liked is a universal desire – we all yearn to be accepted.

Let’s just go ahead and accept that part of ourselves right now so we can move on, shall we?

With that said, being mindful when this longing starts rearing its pesky little head and taking us away from our true selves, is incredibly powerful in it of itself. It is when we begin to construct and mold ourselves into something and someone we’re not, that we begin to shift away from that soulful connection. We may say or do something we think will gain the approval of our date – knowing full well that it’s now who we are or what we’re truly about. While we may “win them over” for the moment, or even the night, the potential for that sacred connection moves further and further away as our true essence is masked by a contrived and artificial version of ourselves.

Now, I’m not proposing to lay it all out on the table on the first date (I believe a dash of mystery is a-okay) – yet to simply make the commitment to fully embrace, honor and present the most authentic version of yourself.

Not only is this form of radical authenticity highly attractive, it also allows you to quickly cut through the bs and stop wasting your time.

You’ll know it’s time to move on when you boldly present your truth and the other person just isn’t digging your vibe. Trust in that – always.

Because at the end of the day, there’s that glorious someone out there who not only digs your vibe, but is completely and utterly enthralled by it…and that’s where the true magic lies.

What I Learned about Love by Going to Burning Man by Amy Van Doran


This year I attended my first Burning Man. The experience was magical, and such a source of inspiration. It was especially meaningful because this summer I said goodbye to a beautiful relationship with a man I loved, and was feeling especially lovelorn. Here are some tips that I learned after embracing the Burn, that you can also swap as a metaphor for love. Read More